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Monday, August 13, 2007

mean parents stink

ok, so i will admit i'm not the kindest person around. i'm not mean, but i'm sure when someone asks you to describe me the first adjective you would think of would probably not be "sweet" or "gentle".. and i'm ok with that.. because ultimately i don't think those are my most prominent attributes. i love justice more than mercy (and i'm hoping God will do a little reshaping here). i scream on occasion and lose my temper (shocker), but i'm beginning to think i could write a book on how to be a fabulous parent. NOT because i'm so fabulous, but because i know i'm not as TERRIBLE as a LARGE number of parents i observe on a daily basis.. i continue to be amazed at how hateful and abusive some parents are to their children! i know this is basically my second blog about mean parents, but for some reason God keeps showing me the brokenness of people and the way they injure their kids in the process of living life the way they want. i'm wondering what He's wanting to teach me in this season about people, parenting, kids, brokenness, etc. it seems that at least ONCE EACH DAY (which i think is insane) i observe some parent (usually the mom) screaming some incredibly hurtful, rude, outrageous poison to her child/children- threatening to "knock them into tomorrow" and such. and it never fails to shock me for several reasons, one big reason being they are in a PUBLIC place screaming at a small child. which makes me think it must be ten times worse at their home. in fact yesterday at walmart grocery, i heard a mom cheering on a another mom who was disciplining her children harshly. and the disciplining mom replied, "wait til your kids get in jr. high- they'll try to tell you you can't punish your kids anymore." one aisle later she was screaming again.
what is wrong with people??? our society scares me. and makes me run to God. asking Him for more grace- grace to love my girls more, grace to deal with anger without scarring my children in the process, grace to discipline appropriately, grace for the kids who live in fear and shame, grace for parents to see what they are doing and grace for their change. God's birthing something within me regarding all of this- i'm waiting to see it unfold.

4 comments:

Travis said...

i hate it when I see parents yelling at their kids for not even being bad, just being kids. like they're irritated that their kids even exist.

Chat_Daddy said...

stink is too kind of a word; ergo, you are kind. :)

Gina said...

heeey * i am posting now ;) xoxo

ziondreamer said...

I actually saw a mom coming out of home depot slap her 4ish yr. old little guy on the face. I was about to go confront her but Creighton stopped me, observing that she was rather large and intimidating and had an equally large/intimidating friend with her at the time.
It is staggering - I agree with you - to see all the crazy people out there who don't realize how they are wounding their babies!
Maybe they just really don't understand the implications of their actions...